Dear Beautiful Female, Feminine, and Femme Women,
I want to begin this letter by saying: I see you. I celebrate you. I honor the incredible journey you’ve walked to get here. You are the embodiment of strength, resilience, and beauty, and your story is uniquely yours—a testament to the power of living through challenges and emerging stronger.
To those who feel the weight of uncertainty in the wake of the recent election, I want you to know: I am with you. I see your frustration, your determination, and your hope for something better. This letter, this space, is dedicated to you.
For the next four years, my desire for you is not just survival but thriving. Thriving as the bold, authentic, extraordinary women you are meant to be. Because when you live fully for yourself—not in service to the expectations of others—you reclaim your power and begin to dismantle the systems that hold you back.
You are more powerful than you’ve been told. You are capable of living a life that is bold, beautiful, and authentically yours. My dream is for you to step into that life—not the one handed to you by circumstance or conditioning, but the one you design intentionally.
You are not alone in this journey. One woman at a time, one choice at a time, we create a ripple of change. We inspire others by being unapologetically ourselves. Together, we push on, and together, we thrive.
Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself
My name is Suzette. I am an embodiment coach for the femme professional—women and individuals who are ready to profoundly change their lives. Embodiment means aligning your inner beliefs and desires with your outward actions. It’s about designing your life intentionally and living authentically.
Why is this so important?
Because I know what it feels like to live a life dictated by societal expectations, cultural conditioning, and the weight of internalized narratives I never consented to. I know what it’s like to feel stuck, to question your worth, and to wonder if there’s more. And I know what it takes to break free.
Let me share a glimpse of my story, because while it is uniquely mine, it may resonate with you in ways that remind you of your own strength and resilience.
The Roles I Was Born Into
I turned 50 this year. I was born into a predominantly white family—predominantly, because my mother is one-quarter Alaskan Native. Her darker complexion didn’t just set her apart in society’s eyes, within our religion, but even among her in-laws, which wasn’t pleasant for her. My upbringing was steeped in the traditions of a fifth-generation devout Mormon family. As the only girl among four brothers, I grew up in an environment that favored traditional gender roles, leaving me less valued, with fewer opportunities for advancement, and saddled with more than my share of housework.
Trigger Warning: Like too many others, my childhood carried a trauma narrative—one that threw me into fight-or-flight mode for most of my life.
As a young girl, I was molested by someone I should have been able to trust, forcing me to grow up far too young. This violation of my innocence and boundaries left me grappling with battles no child should ever face. Worse still, these experiences were overlooked and minimized by the cultural and institutional frameworks around me, thank you patriarchy.
My teen years predictably included rebellion and “authority” issues. At 18, I was evicted from my room and told I could sleep on the couch if I wanted to stay. By 19, my boyfriend (now my husband) and I found ourselves pregnant and homeless, couch-surfing for months until we finally secured government assistance and housing through HUD. These experiences, while difficult, laid the foundation for who I would eventually become.
Like so many women, I inherited and internalized narratives of shame, guilt, and unworthiness. These stories—rooted in patriarchy and reinforced by cultural and religious traditions—conditioned me to doubt my value and police my behavior to fit the mold of a “good girl.” This internalized misogyny shaped not only how others saw me but also how I saw myself.
Before I go any further, I want to acknowledge my privilege as a white woman. While my struggles are real, they are not the same as the systemic barriers faced by women of color, LGBTQ+ individuals, immigrants, and others who face compounding layers of oppression. I honor and respect the unique stories of every woman, recognizing that while I have faced hardships, I’ve also been afforded opportunities that others have been unjustly denied.
The Roles I Chose
The roles I’ve chosen since leaving my family home were different from those I was raised to accept, often filled with attempts to become the better version of myself I wasn’t quite encouraged to be. I became a mother, a wife, and eventually, after earning my GED, a college graduate with a degree in Art History.
But my journey was not a linear one. For years, I battled self-sacrifice, burnout, depression, anxiety, feelings of unworthiness, and a deep-seated trauma response to fawn throughout my life. Which always seemed to keep me accepting success as I accomplished things, and still feeling a sense of “not good enough”.
At 44, I worked with a counselor who coached me to break free from survival mode and my trauma responses. Between that guidance and the countless self-development books I had devoured, something finally clicked. The biggest lesson I extracted was self-responsibility. I could no longer use my past to hold me back. I could no longer create the life I wanted while hating what had gotten me here.
Unlearning these narratives wasn’t easy, but when I did, I was able to let go of the external judgments, and external expectations put on me, and those I was conditioned to put on myself. What I was left with was freedom, profound hope, and a love for the untapped possibilities ahead of me.
Reclaiming Your Life Begins
Reclaiming your life begins with love—most importantly, love for yourself, and a love for the life you know you’re capable of creating. It begins when you challenge the narratives that have held you back. It happens when you strip away the conditioning that no longer serves you, and you start decoding the beliefs that have kept you small.
- Stop doubting yourself—you are CAPABLE. Trust your instincts and move forward with bold confidence.
- See other women as allies, not competition—solidarity is your strength. Together, we rise higher, stronger, and unstoppable.
- Break free from gender stereotypes—forge your own path and reject the outdated roles that have never defined you.
- Validate yourself and claim your FREEDOM—your WORTH is inherent and doesn’t require anyone else’s approval. Reclaim your life, moment by moment, choice by choice.
- Recognize the impact of gender bias and reject the narratives that hold you back—be the CHANGE you were born to embody.
Each time you take these steps, you reclaim your power, honor your journey, and inspire others to do the same. Together, we create a world where every woman thrives.
My Role Today
Today, I am deeply passionate about helping women create lives they always secretly thought possible. Ten years after earning my degree, I became a life coach with a clear purpose: to guide women through the often messy and uncomfortable process of self-discovery. It is a journey that requires courage but leads to a life that is wholly and unapologetically yours.
This is what I know: joy is a choice I make every day, independent of circumstances. Hope and resilience are forces I cultivate, even when uncertainty surrounds me. I trust in the boundless potential of the Universe (or God), anchoring myself in love, strength, and limitless possibilities.
My vow to every woman reading this: You are not alone. Whether you are taking tentative steps toward reclaiming your power or you are deeply immersed in your journey, I am here to walk beside you, even if only in spirit.
A Closing Wish for You
Wherever you are currently on your journey, I want you to know this: You are enough. You are worthy, just as you are. You are capable—more than you realize. And the life you dream of is within your power to create.
I hope you wake up every day feeling the strength of your own potential. I hope you choose yourself, again and again, even when the path feels difficult. I hope you embrace the fullness of who you are, knowing you have the courage to live boldly, unapologetically, and authentically.
This life is yours—yours to shape, yours to claim, yours to embody. When you choose to live for yourself, you inspire others to do the same. You dismantle the systems that hold us back, one courageous choice, one woman at a time.
And in doing so, you don’t just reclaim your life—you change the world.
With love and unwavering belief in your brilliance,
All My Love—Suzette
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